Deciding how exactly you want to bring your little one into this world is such an extremely personal decision. No-one can or should make this decision for you – your freedom to make informed choices about your baby’s birth (the how, where, and with who) really is the starting point of having an empowered, positive birth experience.
Me? I always wanted to give birth naturally. It honestly was never even something I really had to think about, it is just what I wanted. I knew about the benefits a baby experiences if allowed to move through the birth path, and am generally inclined to want to trust my body to come through for me when necessary. In spite of that, I think like most of us, I had a picture in my head of what that would actually look like. And that picture pretty much terrified me.
If you imagine yourself going through the types of childbirths you’ve most likely been exposed to – overly dramatised labor on TV and in movies, and listening to other women’s traumatic birth (or war) stories – it’s natural to feel intimidated and scared. That is pretty much where I was – I wanted to have a natural birth, but I was quite afraid of what that actually meant.
My Introduction To HypnoBirthing
When I was 12 weeks pregnant with Adeline, my first born, my sister-in-law gave me the HypnoBirthing® (The Mongan Method) book, and told me to read it. From the very first moment, everything I was reading resonated with me so much.
As a side note, I can say that I’ve always been super interested in how the brain and the mind works, and how powerful our minds are in shaping the way we see our everyday lives. I had also gone for hypnotherapy in the past to help me deal with some pretty severe bouts of anxiety I was struggling with – which, by the way, worked wonders!
Because of that, I suppose, another advantage was that I had an understanding of self-hypnosis as simply being a very valuable, learned technique, to help yourself into a deeply relaxed, focused state.
In reading the HypnoBirthing book, everything really just came together for me – it made a lot of sense, and the best way I could probably describe it is to say that it felt like truth. It felt like something that I already believed in so many other areas of my life, and this book was just applying these truths to childbirth. Why HypnoBirthing? Because it really does make sense.
Natural Birth Is Natural
HypnoBirthing’s premise reaffirmed my belief that our bodies truly are more than capable of giving birth to our babies – without trauma, without fear, without incessant, unpleasant intervention.
It helped me see that my hesitance to be sprawled out on a table with bright lights and strangers seeing me naked in my most vulnerable state, was warranted. Because that is never how we were intended to give birth.
It affirmed my need for support and privacy during labor, and helped me to fully form a picture in my mind of what I wanted the birth of my baby to feel like – sacred, protected, trusted, supported, honored and respected.
Why HypnoBirthing? Because it restores birthing to a respected, powerful event that a woman is capable of going through with positivity, if she has the right support and information.
Trusting Your Instincts Is Okay
This book and this method is simply this – childbirth being brought back to what it once was: instinctive, special, and supported, in stead of controlled.
I will share my actual birth stories in some upcoming posts. What I can confirm here is that HypnoBirthing® had a massive impact on both my babies’ births, and that I look back on both events with all the gratitude, love, and awe in the world.
That is, simply put, what I wish for every mother. I wish for every mother to be able to look back on the birth of her children, knowing that she had all the information she needed to be able to feel secure in her decisions. Knowing that the team of caregivers she employed supported her birth plan and never offered unnecessary interventions just for the sake of it. Knowing that decisions were never made from a point of mistrust in her body, or fear, or a need to control and tick checkboxes on a chart, but from an evidence-based, informed position. Knowing that she did it all, supported, loved, respected, empowered, and yes, fearless.
I believe that this is how we can make birth better for women – one birth at a time.
If you are interested in finding a HypnoBirthing Practitioner near you, hop on over to the handy geo-location tool here: https://us.hypnobirthing.com/parents/find-a-hypnobirthing-instructor/. Type in your location, and a list of practitioners will come up, along with how far they are from you.
Why HypnoBirthing? Honestly, I think the question should be ‘Why Not?’.